No Visible Bruises by
WINNER OF THE HILLMAN PRIZE FOR BOOK JOURNALISM, THE HELEN BERNSTEIN BOOK AWARD, AND THE LUKAS WORK-IN-PROGRESS AWARD * A NEW YORK TIMES TOP 10 BOOKS OF THE YEAR * NATIONAL BOOK CRITICS CIRCLE AWARD FINALIST * LOS ANGELES TIMES BOOK PRIZE FINALIST * ABA SILVER GAVEL AWARD FINALIST * KIRKUS PRIZE FINALIST NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF 2019 BY: Esquire, Amazon, Kirkus, Library Journal, Publishers Weekly, BookPage, BookRiot, Economist, New York Times Staff Critics "A seminal and breathtaking account of why home is the most dangerous place to be a woman . . . A tour de force." --Eve Ensler "Terrifying, courageous reportage from our internal war zone." --Andrew Solomon "Extraordinary." --New York Times ,"Editors' Choice" "Gut-wrenching, required reading." --Esquire "Compulsively readable . . . It will save lives." --Washington Post "Essential, devastating reading." --Cheryl Strayed, New York Times Book Review An award-winning journalist's intimate investigation of the true scope of domestic violence, revealing how the roots of America's most pressing social crises are buried in abuse that happens behind closed doors. We call it domestic violence. We call it private violence. Sometimes we call it intimate terrorism. But whatever we call it, we generally do not believe it has anything at all to do with us, despite the World Health Organization deeming it a "global epidemic." In America, domestic violence accounts for 15 percent of all violent crime, and yet it remains locked in silence, even as its tendrils reach unseen into so many of our most pressing national issues, from our economy to our education system, from mass shootings to mass incarceration to #MeToo. We still have not taken the true measure of this problem. In No Visible Bruises, journalist Rachel Louise Snyder gives context for what we don't know we're seeing. She frames this urgent and immersive account of the scale of domestic violence in our country around key stories that explode the common myths--that if things were bad enough, victims would just leave; that a violent person cannot become nonviolent; that shelter is an adequate response; and most insidiously that violence inside the home is a private matter, sealed from the public sphere and disconnected from other forms of violence. Through the stories of victims, perpetrators, law enforcement, and reform movements from across the country, Snyder explores the real roots of private violence, its far-reaching consequences for society, and what it will take to truly address it.
Domestic Abuse, Child Custody, and Visitation by
When domestic abuse and children are involved, divorce and custody can be the epitome of high-stakes conflict and frustration and all too frequently protective parents lose custody of their child to a named abuser. Domestic Abuse, Child Custody, and Visitation helps mental healthprofessionals, attorneys, and lay readers navigate the judicial process so that decisions are truly made in the best interest of children. The text reveals how all the puzzle pieces of the judicial process fit together - judges, attorneys, mental health experts, children, spouses - and how toovercome many of the obstacles they will confront along the way. This runs the gamut, from the selelection of a lawyer and experts, to setting necessary groundwork for an appeal. Domestic Abuse, Child Custody, and Visitation is an essential read for mental health professionals and lay peopleinvolved in divorce and custody, family court judges, family law attorneys, and mental health professionals involved in domestic abuse and custody matters.
Domestic Violence by
Editor Louise I. Gerdes has thoughtful collected a series of essays that tackle the tough topic of domestic violence. Essays are sequence in a pro versus con format so that readers are presented with more than one intelligent viewpoint on every issue. Across four chapters, readers will evaluate the seriousness of domestic violence, what factors cause it, whether teen dating violence is a serious problem, and whether economic downturns amplify problems that can lead to domestic violence. Essay sources include the National Coalition for Child Protection Reform, American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, Information Week, and the National Child Abuse Coalition.
A Troubled Marriage by
Choice's Outstanding Academic Title list for 2013 The development of a legal regime to combat domestic violence in the United States has been lauded as one of the feminist movement's greatest triumphs. But, Leigh Goodmark argues, the resulting system is deeply flawed in ways that prevent it from assisting many women subjected to abuse. The current legal response to domestic violence is excessively focused on physical violence; this narrow definition of abuse fails to provide protection from behaviors that are profoundly damaging, including psychological, economic, and reproductive abuse. The system uses mandatory policies that deny women subjected to abuse autonomy and agency, substituting the state's priorities for women's goals. A Troubled Marriage is a provocative exploration of how the legal system's response to domestic violence developed, why that response is flawed, and what we should do to change it. Goodmark argues for an anti-essentialist system, which would define abuse and allocate power in a manner attentive to the experiences, goals, needs and priorities of individual women. Theoretically rich yet conversational, A Troubled Marriage imagines a legal system based on anti-essentialist principles and suggests ways to look beyond the system to help women find justice and economic stability, engage men in the struggle to end abuse, and develop community accountability for abuse.
Breaking the Cycle of Abuse by
"A beacon of hope for women and men who fear that they will passthe abuse they have suffered on to their children, partners, oremployees. Humane and compassionate but also clear and down toearth, this is a wonderful contribution to the literature onhealing." --Lundy Bancroft, author of When Dad Hurts Mom and Why Does He DoThat? "In this remarkably powerful, wise, and compassionate book, BeverlyEngel leads readers step by step through a program that will helpsurvivors of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse in childhood toheal from their wounds so they don't need to re-enact their abusivepasts. She offers expert advice and strategies to help parents andwould-be parents avoid doing to their children what was done tothem and helps both abusers and victims in emotionally andphysically abusive relationships make vitally important changes intheir relationships." --Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents and EmotionalBlackmail If you were emotionally, physically, or sexually abused as a childor adolescent, or if you experienced neglect or abandonment, itisn't a question of whether you will continue the cycle of abusebut rather a question of how--whether you will become an abuser orcontinue to be a victim. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel,a leading expert on emotional and sexual abuse, explains how tostop the cycle of abuse once and for all. Her step-by-step programprovides the necessary skills for gaining control over emotions,changing negative attitudes, learning healthy ways ofcommunicating, healing the damage from prior abuse, and seeking outsupport. Throughout, Engel shares many dramatic personal stories includingher own experiences with abusive behavior. Breaking the Cycle ofAbuse gives you the power to shatter abusive patterns for good andoffers a legacy of hope and healing for you and your family.
When Men Batter Women by
While national awareness of the issue of battering has increased in recent years, certain myths regarding abusive relationships still endure, including the idea that all batterers are alike. But as Neil S. Jacobson, Ph.D., and John Gottman, Ph.D., explain, this is not the case. Drawing on the authors' own research, When Men Batter Women offers a significant breakthrough in our understanding of the men who become batterersand how to put a stop to the cycle of relationship violence.After their decade of research with more than 200 couples, the authors conclude that not all batterers are alike, nor is the progression of their violence always predictable. But they have found that batterers tend to fall into one of two categories, which they call "Pit Bulls" and "Cobras." Pit Bulls, men whose emotions quickly boil over, are driven by deep insecurity and an unhealthy dependence on the mates whom they abuse. Pit Bulls also tend to become stalkers, unable to let go of relationships that have ended.Cobras, on the other hand, are cool and methodical as they inflict pain and humiliation on their spouses or lovers; in one chilling discovery, the authors found that during violent arguments and physical beatings the heart rate of Cobras actually declines. Cobras have often been physically or sexually abused themselves, frequently in childhood, and tend to see violence as an unavoidable part of life.Knowing which type a batterer is can be crucial to gauging whether an abusive relationship is salvageable (Pit Bulls can sometimes be helped through therapy) or whether the situation is beyond repair. Using the stories of several couples in their study, Jacobson and Gottman look at the dynamics of abusive relationships, refuting prevalent myths ("battering often stops on its own" or "battered women could stop the battering by changing their own behavior"). Never underestimating the inherent risk or danger involved, the authors discuss how women in their study group prepared themselves to leave an abusive relationship, where a battered woman can get help, and how she can keep herself safe.Written with compassion and insight, When Men Batter Women offers invaluable advice and support to women in abusive relationships, as well as to friends, relatives, and caregivers who want to help.
Encyclopedia of Domestic Violence and Abuse by
This comprehensive, two-volume work examines domestic abuse in the United States and worldwide, providing research, personal stories, and primary documents that reveal the extent of the problem. * Presents personal narratives that highlight the importance of each survivor's unique experience with abuse * Includes primary source documents that address key legislation and court cases * Provides a wide range of resources for researchers, such as recommended reading and film lists as well as state, national, and international organizations related to domestic abuse
Big Little Lies by
DON'T MISS SEASON 2 OF THE GOLDEN GLOBE AND EMMY AWARD-WINNING HBO® SERIES STARRING REESE WITHERSPOON, NICOLE KIDMAN, SHAILENE WOODLEY, LAURA DERN, ZOË KRAVITZ, AND MERYL STREEP From the author of Nine Perfect Strangers, Truly Madly Guilty, and The Husband's Secret comes the #1 New York Times bestselling novel about the dangerous little lies we tell ourselves just to survive. A murder...A tragic accident...Or just parents behaving badly? What's indisputable is that someone is dead. Madeline is a force to be reckoned with. She's funny, biting, and passionate; she remembers everything and forgives no one. Celeste is the kind of beautiful woman who makes the world stop and stare but she is paying a price for the illusion of perfection. New to town, single mom Jane is so young that another mother mistakes her for a nanny. She comes with a mysterious past and a sadness beyond her years. These three women are at different crossroads, but they will all wind up in the same shocking place. Big Little Lies is a brilliant take on ex-husbands and second wives, mothers and daughters, schoolyard scandal, and the little lies that can turn lethal.
Black and Blue by
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER * "Intimate and illuminating and, as is true of most anything Quindlen writes, well worth the read."--People For eighteen years Fran Benedetto kept her secret, hid her bruises. She stayed with Bobby because she wanted her son to have a father, and because, in spite of everything, she loved him. Then one night, when she saw the look on her ten-year-old son's face, Fran finally made a choice--and ran for both their lives. Now she is starting over in a city far from home, far from Bobby. In this place she uses a name that isn't hers, watches over her son, and tries to forget. For the woman who now calls herself Beth, every day is a chance to heal, to put together the pieces of her shattered self. And every day she waits for Bobby to catch up to her. Bobby always said he would never let her go, and despite the ingenuity of her escape, Fran Benedetto is certain of one thing: It is only a matter of time. Praise for Black and Blue "Heartbreaking."--Time "Beautifully paced--keeps the reader anxiously turning the pages."--New York Times Book Review "A gut-wrencher--another stunner."--Denver Post "Impossible to put down--the tension is both awful and mesmerizing."--St. Louis Post-Dispatch "Engrossing--compassionate and tense."--New York Times "Her best novel yet."--Publishers Weekly "Absolutely believable--Quindlen writes with power and grace."--Boston Globe "A moving masterpiece."--Lexington Herald-Leader